Friday, November 7, 2008

Part 3

Some people have said I am putting too much detail into this, so I may not put so much into it....

Part 3, oh yeah, the date. I was dog sitting for the Ross's and Erika was going to come down and we were going to swim and throw a softball. Hey, she wanted to and I like sports so it was something we would both enjoy. I was going to make her dinner and we were going to watch a movie. It was just a day where we could spend together. Things did not go as planned for Erika, as she had a little trouble obtaining a vehicle and was about 2 hours late getting here. We did go swimming and threw a softball. her pants got wet because it had rained earlier, so I gave her my shorts to wear. We went back to my house when it started to get dark, and I started to get hungry. I ended up making spaghetti without hamburger and we watched Casablanca. I did not have my stove hooked up yet, so I had to make it upstairs and I would not let her come up there with me. that made me sad, but she and I both were really hungry by the time dinner was ready. She had to be home by midnight, so our night came to an end all too soon. It was great, I loved it, and realized that I really enjoyed her company. I asked her if she would be my girlfriend, and she said yes.

On Monday, her family was coming to Clarksville to pick up a piano they had found of Craigslist. I offered to take her and her mom to dinner, but realized her other three sisters would be in tow, so we all agreed to eat together. They got lost and I gave them directions (not the first time I had done so for Erika). They were going to see a missionary and deliever some cookies to him for his mother and then pick up the piano and then we would eat. well, it just kept getting later and later and finally they said they would be leaving soon and I left to meet them at Fazolli's. I got a call from them shortly after that they had a flat tire, so I went to rescue them. By the time they were fixed, it was late so we went to Johnny's Big Burger. Erika rode with me and her family followed. I did not get to kiss her good night or even really hug her because it was a little awkward with her mom. A little awkward, but I felt that I had done everything I could to be the person my parents raised me to be.

That Friday was the monthly YSA dance and Erika and I made plans to go eat Chinese before hand and try to go see the new Batman movie which was coming out that night. However, that day I got a text from Erika. She was breaking up with me. not from any fault of my own, but because her parents did not think I was right for her. That made things very difficult at home for her. I was not going to go since my reason for going had just abandoned me. I was pretty distraught over that. I thought things were finally looking up for me. I was getting my life together and I had met a wonderful woman who cared for me. I went about half the day fading into the robot that made my existance easier. However, something happened. I do not know what, but I decided I was not going to turn back into my old self. I wanted a new and better life. I wanted to be happy and this was not going to be the end of the world. I had been through this before and it was not the worst thing. Don't get me wrong, it totally sucked, but I had to have faith that Heavenly Father would bless me for doing what I needed to have done a very long time ago. Late that afternoon, I got a text from Erika asking if I would meet her there so we could talk. I agreed and showed up on time for the dance, which, by Erika, was an hour late. She proceeded to tell me about everything that had gone on with her family and what she was having to deal with. She wants to make her parents happy, as would any decent child, and have them approve of her. They did not of me, and she was fixing that. I asked if there was anything I could do which their was not, so I had nothing more keeping me there. I told her goodbye and I walked out to my car.

8 comments:

erikab said...

You forgot to put in the part where you broke the fence with the softball.

And I love the ending. Way to leave everyone in suspense. I'm glad I know the reset of the story.

Lauren said...

Yeah...I assume there's more, as you are still together. :)

It's always hard when parents don't approve. I don't know what I would have done if mom and dad had not liked Cam. Sometimes I think they like him more than they like me though. I hope that situation has changed.

As for pulling yourself out of a funk--GOOD JOB!! I'm so glad that you're still doing great and deciding to be happy. Love ya!

Lauren said...

Uh, so I meant that I hope your situation with Erika's parents has changed. Not that I want my parents to stop liking Cam. Thought I would clear that up.

Unknown said...

For Erika: you broke up with him in a text!!??!!

For Lauren: yes, we do like you more than Cam and probably always will. (No offense, Cam.)

For Clayton: I'm so happy that things are looking up for you. You're a great person and deserve the best. And I'm grateful you were able to pull yourself back from the edge. I know from experience how hard that can be.

erikab said...

In my defense, what little there is, yes, I broke up with him in a text message. I had decided the night before, I talked to him while driving my sisters to gymnastics and didn't have the guts to bring it up before he had to go to work. But I had to do it before he came down (right after work) and I had no vehicle. I wasn't calling him at work for this, so a text message was the logical conclusion. And it was REALLY, REALLY hard.

Unknown said...

I don't want you to think I'm judging. Sometimes it's easier on both parties to write rather than speak--especially when emotions are running high. Clayton is my only son and I can be over-protective at times. Don't take it personally. He's had to put up with me for a long time.

Lauren said...

Don't worry, it's not my mom you have to get to like you--it's me. Just kidding. Sort of. :)

Unknown said...

I don't blog because I don't usually have an opinion that will matter. But just for the record: I liked Erika from day one. She likes to ski. She likes my son. She's very polite, and she's always welcome in our home. So if there is any question about anything. I'm on her side. Beverly's Husband(Claytons Dad)